So I've been reading a lot lately about the taboo that is associated with second baby showers. Meaning, a baby shower for second, third, fourth, etc. children in the same family.
On the one hand, we have people who are of the strict belief that baby showers are specifically for the first born. It's a "welcome to motherhood" rite of passage. Some people feel tt's greedy to have multiple showers for the same baby, let alone a shower for each child you may have. They feel you are already a parent and should have the essentials to welcome subsequent children.
On the other hand, second baby showers are becoming more widely accepted, especially if the second baby is the opposite gender as the first child. Many people feel the shower for the first child only rule is simply an archaic one, stating that each baby is unique and deserves their own party and special attention. Some people feel that the second shower should be more of a celebration of the latest addition to the family, since the parents should have the basics from the previous child, i.e., crib, dresser, changing table, etc. Therefore, the gifts, if any, should be more practical things like diapers, car seats if the parents didn't keep the first, clothes, essential safety items, bottles, and the like.
What are your thoughts?
Is it greedy? (and is it still greedy if someone else throws the shower for you?)
Does each baby deserve their own special celebration?
3 comments:
I think each child deserves one. You should go for it!
The chipmunks are singing Bon Jovi on your music player. Living on a prayer. Funny..
I think its an individual choice. It's a new little spirit arriving. There should be some sort of celebration. I know people that never had a baby shower except a quick lunch hour at work party.
I've been to three the last couple of months that were open houses and all that was requested was Diapers and necessities. One lady was having her 6th child. But she did get quite a few clothes.
Having a baby is cause for celebration whether it be your first baby or your 15th baby. Each precious baby deserves his/her own celebration. If the babies are of opposite sex then YES baby gifts are a must OR if babies are born several years apart. If babies are of the same sex, and close in birth then a celebration is in order BUT rather than showering the baby, Mama should be showered with things like spa gifts, hospital necessities such as a new gown and/or robe, new slippers, or books related to raising children when there's more than one. Gift cards for local restaurants are also great gifts for second baby celebrations. They can be used after the baby is born when Mom & Dad finally get a date night. Another great idea is to shower the baby if you want but rather than getting clothes or gender specific items request the necessities such as diapers, wipes, lotion, etc... Those things that you never seem to have enough of. If you are going to shower baby then wait until AFTER you deliver so you can introduce the baby to your guest.
Regardless of how you celebrate the birth of an additional child DO Celebrate! They deserve it and so do you!
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